We found this transformer-isolated control circuit in a June 1995 Electronics Now. The triac must be equipped with a heat sink.
The critical component of this circuit is the transformer. T1 and T2 can be BD135 and T3 / T4 can...
The figure shows how to implement an R-S flip-flop or bistable reset-Set with an LM3900...
This circuit was found in a 1987 documentation but uses components quite common in the current...